People have often asked me what it's like having a child with a disability. Someone sent me this story recently and it describes perfectly what it's like. Have a read below:
Emily Kingsley said, “ I’m often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a disability and to try to help people who have not shared that unique experience to understand it and to imagine how it would feel. It’s like this: When you’re going to have a baby, it’s like planning a fabulous vacation to Italy. You buy a bunch of guidebooks and make your wonderful plans. You’re going to see the coliseum, the Sistine chapel, the gondolas. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian and it’s very exciting. After several months of preparation and anticipation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go to Italy. Several hours later, the plane lands. The stewardess says, ‘Welcome to Holland.’ ‘Holland?’ you say, ‘I signed up for Italy. I’m supposed to be in Italy. All my life I have dreamed of going to Italy.’ But there’s been a change in flight plans and they’ve landed in Holland and there you must stay. The important thing to remember is they haven’t taken you to a horrible, disgusting, filthy place filled with pestilence, famine and disease. It’s just a different place. So you must go out and buy new guidebooks and you must learn a whole new language and you must meet a whole new group of people that you would never have met before. It’s just a different place. It’s slower paced than Italy and it’s less flashy than Italy. But after you have been there for a while and you catch your breath, you begin to look around and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills. And Holland has tulips. And Holland even has Rembrandts. But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy and bragging about what a wonderful time they’ve had there. And for the rest of your life you’ll say, ‘Yes, that is where I was supposed to go. At least that is what I had planned.’ And the pain of that experience will never, ever, go away. The loss of that dream is a very significant loss. But, if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn’t get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy those very special, very lovely things about Holland. “
Very good Caroline, I just recently received this poem myself and have it up in the house! Glad to see Ashling doing so well!! Was chatting to a lady recently on a forum called Heartline, who has just returned from the Austrian clinic and her DD is doing great with her food now! Hope all is well.
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